The atmosphere for the message was set. I had been worshiping with the congregation for about 20 minutes, and even though there was some awkward reverb going on, my heart was ready. The songs, the prayers, and the readings had allowed me to focus in and hear from the Lord.
A man in a suit walked up to the pulpit to introduce the revival speaker for tonight’s service, and after he had prayed over the service in preparation for what was to come he began to introduce the man who would bring the word of the Lord to us this evening. But then it happened…
The audio feed for Olivet’s Live Streaming website cut-out, and I couldn’t hear anything through my headphones anymore. Since there wasn’t even a video feed to look at, I decided to go for a drive.
The morning message was good. Very good, in fact. I sat with my group of fellow Preaching Ambassadors and heard how our lives shouldn’t be lived through our efforts and actions, but that God should live in and through us in a way that our lives naturally produce good fruit. (the spirit of Christ in us – holiness). It wasn’t until my drive tonight that something began to solidify in my heart and mind.
I enjoy driving. Especially evening driving. The day is winding down, not many people are on the road, and there is a general calm to the world. Not to mention the low lighting gives a sense of privacy when driving a car with no tinted windows. Evening/night driving has always been a time of quiet reflection and prayerful thinking for me; and a time to tune in to whatever God wants to talk about.
Apparently he wanted to talk to me about relationships. I can’t say for sure if he had ever ‘said’ anything to me overtly about this topic ever before, either because I thought relationships are too ungodly to talk about, or because I have always been oblivious to what the word actually means when it is lived out. But this time was different. And in a world that has so many mixed and perverted messages about dating (or courting, or whatever you want to call this period of a relationship) and marriage, it was refreshing to hear what my Heavenly Father had to say about them as they pertain to my life.
As most of my conversations with God start out, I admitted my general stupidity about a lot of things. I don’t claim to have a corner on relationships, and even though I worded my previous paragraph a little pointedly, I could very well be mistaken in my understanding and (God forbid!) I am putting words into God’s mouth.
What if our relationships didn’t exist for the sake of the relationship? What if we dated someone for something more than just the dating experience? What if marriage was not an end to a means, and dating a simple ‘phase’ to get through with no inherent significance outside of engagement, which has significance only in the fact that it precedes an ultimate goal: marriage. What if our romantic relationships existed for a purpose greater than romantic and emotional fulfillment?
The Christian life is about living in a way that points directly to God. Holiness is about being sourced by God; not leaning on our own strength, abilities, and understanding, but being entirely dependent upon the Spirit. After all, the ultimate purpose of a Christian is to show God’s love to the world, correct? Living selflessly, thinking of others before ourselves, showing grace and forgiveness – these are all ways that we demonstrate who God is and how much He loves us (and all people). And what is important to know is that we cannot live in such a way on our own, which is why we need God to live it out through us by his power, by his mercy, by his love and grace.
What has been on my heart and mind recently is this: What if my relationships did the same thing? What if the purpose of my relationships was not to reach an ultimate goal, or fulfill some desire, but that the purpose was to show God to the world?
This morning before the service I jotted down something in my phone, and it says:
“What if the purpose of [a] relationship is to be a means by which the love of God is communicated to the world? Wouldn’t that force us to focus beyond ourselves, to desire to build up and support each other? To forgive mistakes and show grace [quicker]? To love each other more?
“What would it look like if our relationship was not about us doing all things for the sake of the relationship and constantly trying to weave God into the mix, but that it was a vessel God uses to show the world who He is by the way we treat each other?”
If that were a reality, then everything changes. Rather than constantly looking forward to the next anniversary, engagement, marriage, and whatever other major points in a relationship, every moment becomes significant. Dating is no longer an awkward pre-engagement phase – it has a true purpose. engagement becomes more than wedding-planning. Yes, there are many nuances of relationships that are complicated, but what would it look like if communicating/displaying God’s love to the world was the primary purpose behind it?
Suddenly, marriage no longer becomes a goal. Marriages becomes a part of the overall story of the relationship. The two people get married because they can’t not get married. They love each other so much that they can’t not commit their lives to each other. They love each other so much that they can’t not forgive each other. They love each other so much that they can’t not give up themselves for each other. And all of this is not because they inherently have an ability to love each other in such a way, but because God has loved through them. God is so alive within each of them, and is living through each of them, that they get wrapped up in this active and vibrant display of His love. It is not merely a story of each person loving each other, but God loving each of them through each other.
Would that create a beautiful image of God’s love for the world?
“You see this couple and how they love each other? That is how much I love you.”
What are your thoughts?